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"I know it is coming, and I do not fear it, because I believe there is nothing on the other side of death to fear. I hope to be spared as much pain as possible on the approach path. I was perfectly content before I was born, and I think of death as the same state. What I am grateful for is the gift of intelligence, and... for life, love, wonder, and laughter. You can't say it wasn't interesting."

~ Roger Ebert

Do not assume that he who seeks to comfort you now, lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. His life may also have much sadness and difficulty, that remains far beyond yours. Were it otherwise, he would never have been able to find these words.

Rainer Maria Rilke, 1875 - 1926


Never allow someone to be your priority
while allowing yourself to be their option.


“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” -- E.M. Forster, English Novelist

This caption is by Richard Carlson, from his book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...and it's all small stuff".

"One More Passing Show. This is a strategy that I have recently adopted into my own life. It's a subtle reminder that everything - the good and bad, pleasure and pain, approval and disapproval, achievements and mistakes, fame and shame, all come and go. Everything has a beginning and an ending and that 's the way it's supposed to be.

Every experience you have ever had is over. Every thought you've ever had, started and finished. Every emotion and mood you've experienced has been replaced by another. You've been happy, sad, jealous, depressed, angry, in love, shamed, proud and every other conceivable human feeling. Where did they all go? The answer is, no one really knows. All we know is that, eventually, everything disappears into nothingness. Welcoming this truth into your life is the beginning of a liberating adventure.

Our disappointment comes about in essentially two ways. When we're experience pleasure we want it to last forever. It never does. Or, when we're experiencing pain, we want it to go away - now. It usually doesn't. Unhappiness is the result of struggling against the natural flow of experience.

It's enormously helpful to experiment with the awareness that life is just one thing after another. One present moment followed by another present moment. When something is happening that we enjoy, know that while it's wonderful to experience the happiness it brings, it will eventually be replaced by something else, a different type of moment. It that's okay with you, you'll feel peace even when the moment changes. And if you're experiencing some type of pain or displeasure, know that this took shall pass. Keeping this awareness close to your heart is a wonderful way to maintain your perspective, even in the face of adversity. It's not always easy, but it is usually helpful."

"It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat."

"Citizenship in a Republic,"
Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910



"There'll be two dates on your tombstone,
nd all your friends will read 'em
But all that's gonna matter is that little dash between 'em..." -
Kevin Welch

"If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a  hundred minus one day, 
so I never have to live without you."    -Winnie the Pooh 

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."  -Unknown

"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.  Walk beside me, and be my friend."   -Albert Camus

"If you should die before me, ask if you could bring a friend." -Stone Temple Pilots 

"We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, 
we take a little of each other everywhere"    -Tim McGraw 

"Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his 
friends." John 15:13


"It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power. " 

Alan Cohen 

There is a wisdom that is woe; but there is a woe that is madness.
And there is a Catskill eagle in some souls that can alike dive down into the blackest gorges, and soar out of them again and become invisible in the sunny spaces.
And even if he for ever flies within the gorge, that gorge is in the mountains;
so that even in his lowest swoopthe mountain eagle is still higher than other birds upon the plain, even though they soar.

~ Moby Dick

"Millions long for immortality who do not know what to do with themselves on
a rainy Sunday afternoon."
-Susan Ertz, author (1894-1985)

"People travel to wonder at the height of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea , 
at the long courses of rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars; and they pass by themselves without wondering."
- Saint Augustine (354-430)

"A free society is a place where it's safe to be unpopular."
-Adlai Stevenson, statesman (1900-1965)

"Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the
public and have no self."
-Cyril Connolly, critic and editor (1903-1974)

The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe for living that suits all cases. - Carl Gustav Jung, psychiatrist and psychologist (1875-1961)

"Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it."
- Henry David Thoreau (1817 - 1862)


from "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz

1. Be impeccable with your word.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean.
Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to
gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the
direction of truth and love.

2. Don't take anything personally.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others
say and do is a projection of their own reality,
their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions
and actions of others, you won't be the victim of
needless suffering.

3. Don't make assumptions.
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you
really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can
to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just
this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always do your best.
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it
will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.
Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will
avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.


"There was a woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her things "in order," she contacted her pastor and had him come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes. She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in. The woman also requested to be buried with her favorite Bible. 

Everything was in order and the pastor was preparing to leave when the woman suddenly remembered something very important to her. "There's one more thing," she said excitedly. "What's that?" came the pastor's reply. 

This is very important," the woman continued. "I want to be buried with a fork in my right hand." The pastor stood looking at the woman, not knowing quite what to say. 

That surprises you, doesn't it?" the woman asked. 

"Well, to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request," said the pastor. 

The woman explained. "In all my years of attending church socials and potluck dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean over and say, "Keep your fork". It was my favorite part because I knew that something better was coming...like velvety chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and with substance! So, I just want people to see me there in that casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder "What's with the fork?". Then I want you to tell them: "Keep your fork....the best is yet to come." 

The pastor's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the woman good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would see her before her death. But he also knew that the woman had a better grasp of heaven than he did. She KNEW that something better was coming. 

At the funeral people were walking by the woman's casket and they saw the pretty dress she was wearing, another favorite Bible and the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the pastor heard the question "What's with the fork?" And over and over he smiled. 

During his message, the pastor told the people of the conversation he had with the woman shortly before she died. He also told them about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. The pastor told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking about it either. 

He was right."


A Smile

"A smile costs nothing, but gives much. 
It enriches those who give it. It takes but a moment,
but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.
No one is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it,
and none is so poor that he cannot be made richer by it.
A smile creates happiness in the home,
promotes good will in business, and is the cornerstone of friendship.
It can perk up the weary, bring cheer to the discouraged,
sunshine to the sad, and is nature's best antidote for trouble.
Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed or stolen,
for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.
When people are too tired to give you a smile, give them one of yours.
No one needs a smile so much as he who has none to give."

On The Lighter Side of Things....

Mom looks into the mirror and sees herself. 
Dad looks into the mirror and sees himself.

The dog looks into the mirror and sees god.


Humorous quotes from Rodney Dangerfield

Four Important Rules on Life - by Paul Barnes

1.  Friends are forever
2.  Never ever let a woman come between you and your friends
3.  All women are DB's! 
4.  Always leave room for dessert


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