"I know it is coming, and I do not fear it, because I believe there is nothing on the other side of death to fear. I hope to be spared as much pain as possible on the approach path. I was perfectly content before I was born, and I think of death as the same state. What I am grateful for is the gift of intelligence, and... for life, love, wonder, and laughter. You can't say it wasn't interesting."
~ Roger Ebert
not assume that he who seeks to comfort you now, lives untroubled
among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. His
life may also have much sadness and difficulty, that remains far
beyond yours. Were it otherwise, he would never have been able
to find these words.
Rainer Maria Rilke, 1875 - 1926
allow someone to be your priority
while allowing yourself to be their option.
“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” -- E.M. Forster, English Novelist
This caption is by Richard Carlson, from his book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...and it's all small stuff".
"One More Passing Show. This is a strategy that I have recently adopted into my own life. It's a subtle reminder that everything - the good and bad, pleasure and pain, approval and disapproval, achievements and mistakes, fame and shame, all come and go. Everything has a beginning and an ending and that 's the way it's supposed to be.
Every experience you have ever had is over. Every thought you've ever had, started and finished. Every emotion and mood you've experienced has been replaced by another. You've been happy, sad, jealous, depressed, angry, in love, shamed, proud and every other conceivable human feeling. Where did they all go? The answer is, no one really knows. All we know is that, eventually, everything disappears into nothingness. Welcoming this truth into your life is the beginning of a liberating adventure.
Our disappointment comes about in essentially two ways. When we're experience pleasure we want it to last forever. It never does. Or, when we're experiencing pain, we want it to go away - now. It usually doesn't. Unhappiness is the result of struggling against the natural flow of experience.
It's enormously helpful to experiment with the awareness that life is just one thing after another. One present moment followed by another present moment. When something is happening that we enjoy, know that while it's wonderful to experience the happiness it brings, it will eventually be replaced by something else, a different type of moment. It that's okay with you, you'll feel peace even when the moment changes. And if you're experiencing some type of pain or displeasure, know that this took shall pass. Keeping this awareness close to your heart is a wonderful way to maintain your perspective, even in the face of adversity. It's not always easy, but it is usually helpful."
"It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat."
"Citizenship in a Republic,"
Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910
be two dates on your tombstone,
all your friends will read 'em
But all that's gonna matter is that little dash between 'em..."
you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred
minus one day,
so I never have to live without you."
-Winnie the Pooh
real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks
walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me,
I may not lead. Walk beside me, and be my friend."
you should die before me, ask if you could bring a friend."
-Stone Temple Pilots
all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go,
we take a little of each other everywhere"
love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his
friends." John 15:13
takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly
secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what
is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous
and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there
is power. "
There is a wisdom that is woe; but there is a woe that is madness.
And there is a Catskill eagle in some souls that can alike dive down into the blackest gorges, and soar out of them again and become invisible in the sunny spaces.
And even if he for ever flies within the gorge, that gorge is in the mountains;
so that even in his lowest swoopthe mountain eagle is still higher than other birds upon the plain, even though they soar.
~ Moby Dick
"Millions long for immortality who do not know what to do with themselves
a rainy Sunday afternoon."
-Susan Ertz, author (1894-1985)
"People travel to wonder at the height of mountains, at the huge waves
of the sea ,
at the long courses of rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean,
at the circular motion of the stars; and they pass by themselves
- Saint Augustine (354-430)
"A free society is a place where it's safe to be unpopular."
-Adlai Stevenson, statesman (1900-1965)
"Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the
public and have no self."
-Cyril Connolly, critic and editor (1903-1974)
The shoe that fits one person pinches another; there is no recipe
for living that suits all cases. - Carl Gustav Jung, psychiatrist
and psychologist (1875-1961)
"Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it."
- Henry David Thoreau (1817 - 1862)
"The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz
Be impeccable with your word.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean.
Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to
gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the
direction of truth and love.
Don't take anything personally.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others
say and do is a projection of their own reality,
their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions
and actions of others, you won't be the victim of
Don't make assumptions.
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you
really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can
to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just
this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always do your best.
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it
will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.
Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will
avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
was a woman who had been diagnosed with a terminal illness
and had been given three months to live. So as she was getting her
things "in order," she contacted her pastor and had him
come to her house to discuss certain aspects of her final wishes.
She told him which songs she wanted sung at the service, what scriptures
she would like read, and what outfit she wanted to be buried in.
The woman also requested to be buried with her favorite Bible.
was in order and the pastor was preparing to leave when the woman
suddenly remembered something very important to her. "There's
one more thing," she said excitedly. "What's that?"
came the pastor's reply.
is very important," the woman continued. "I want to
be buried with a fork in my right hand." The pastor stood
looking at the woman, not knowing quite what to say.
surprises you, doesn't it?" the woman asked.
to be honest, I'm puzzled by the request," said the pastor.
woman explained. "In all my years of attending church socials
and potluck dinners, I always remember that when the dishes of
the main course were being cleared, someone would inevitably lean
over and say, "Keep your fork". It was my favorite part
because I knew that something better was coming...like velvety
chocolate cake or deep-dish apple pie. Something wonderful, and
with substance! So, I just want people to see me there in that
casket with a fork in my hand and I want them to wonder "What's
with the fork?". Then I want you to tell them: "Keep
your fork....the best is yet to come."
pastor's eyes welled up with tears of joy as he hugged the woman
good-bye. He knew this would be one of the last times he would
see her before her death. But he also knew that the woman had
a better grasp of heaven than he did. She KNEW that something
better was coming.
the funeral people were walking by the woman's casket and they
saw the pretty dress she was wearing, another favorite Bible and
the fork placed in her right hand. Over and over, the pastor heard
the question "What's with the fork?" And over and over
his message, the pastor told the people of the conversation he
had with the woman shortly before she died. He also told them
about the fork and about what it symbolized to her. The pastor
told the people how he could not stop thinking about the fork
and told them that they probably would not be able to stop thinking
about it either.
smile costs nothing, but gives much.
It enriches those who give it. It takes but a moment,
but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.
No one is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it,
and none is so poor that he cannot be made richer by it.
A smile creates happiness in the home,
promotes good will in business, and is the cornerstone of friendship.
It can perk up the weary, bring cheer to the discouraged,
sunshine to the sad, and is nature's best antidote for trouble.
Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed or stolen,
for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is
When people are too tired to give you a smile, give them one of
No one needs a smile so much as he who has none to give."
The Lighter Side of Things....
looks into the mirror and sees herself.
Dad looks into the mirror and sees himself.
The dog looks into the mirror and sees god.
quotes from Rodney Dangerfield
Important Rules on Life - by Paul
Friends are forever
2. Never ever let a woman come between you and your friends
3. All women are DB's!
4. Always leave room for dessert