"Remember me as one that loved not wisely, but too well"
Othello - William Shakespeare
The relationship between my mother and I was complicated. Growing up, I was very close to her. She helped develop my love and appreciation of antiques, music, art, reading. She also nurtured the emotional side of me and I loved and respected her throughout my childhood. When she and my dad divorced, she got custody of my sister and I. Over the next few years, I'd watch her change and the person I saw, as a 15 year old boy, confused me. She made decisions that I thought were morally wrong and it caused a schism between us. This would grow even larger after graduating high school and for many years after that, our relationship was strained at best. We briefly came back together when my brother got engaged and then married, but soon there after, our relationship took another hit and in the end, I just couldn't deal with it, so we parted ways, agreeing to disagree.
Understand, I could write volumes on the issues we had together as well as the mental conditions she suffered from, but that's not important right now.
As an adult, I now look back and see things differently. I understand the situation Mom was in and some of the tough and scary decisions she had to make with no guidance or help from family and friends. On top of all of that, she had many of her own inner demons that she had to deal with on a daily basis that affected her life, and I certainly don't envy her position. I regret that neither one of us was able to overcome the emotional debris that blocked our paths at having a healthy relationship and that she died before we had the chance to do so. I do sincerely know that she loved me, and I her....
I will always try and remember the best Mom. Me listening to her play the piano, her sense of humor, her strong spirit, and her having a heart bigger than just about anyone I've ever known.
I miss and love you Mom. I hope that you are finally at peace.
Obituary as it appeared in the Salem News, October 14, 2008
DANVERS — Diane Virginia (Brolli) Ruggiero, 64, of Danvers and formerly of West Peabody, died Wednesday, Oct. 8, 2008 at the Beverly Hospital after a brief illness. She was the wife of Walter L. Ruggiero.
She was born in Glenridge, N.J. on March 27, 1944, the daughter of the late Edward and Virginia (Juliana) Brolli and was raised there before moving to the Berkshires in Western Massachusetts.
She was a graduate of the University of Bridgeport in Connecticut. She later moved to Marshfield and then to Peabody for many years and resided in Danvers for the past four years. She was a special needs teacher with the North Shore ARC in Danvers for 25 years. She loved dolls and teddy bears and had a large doll collection.
Surviving her besides her husband of 19 years marriage are two sons, Scott Penziner of California and Timothy Penziner of Wakefield; a daughter, Virginia Penziner of Salem; a grandchild, Seth Penziner of Wakefield; her step children, John Ruggiero of Revere and Walter Ruggiero II of Peabody, and the late James Ruggiero; her step grandchildren, Lily, Joseph and John and Anthony Ruggiero all of Revere.
ARRANGEMENTS: A visitation will be held on Wednesday from 8 until 8:30 a.m. at the Conway, Cahill-Brodeur Funeral Home at the 82 Lynn St., Peabody facility followed by a funeral Mass in St. Agnes Church, Middleton at 9 a.m. Burial will be in Walnut Grove Cemetery, Danvers.